I'm married, have a baby, and I live 5 hours away from most of my best friends. Most of my friends aren't married and only a few have babies. I feel like many of my friends can't relate to what I'm going through in my life. I want to talk about diaper rash and teething and they want to talk about what bars they went to the night before. My life revolves around cleaning bottles, baby lotion, middle of the night feedings. They just aren't quite there yet. I get excited when Hunter starts rocking on his knees and I think he's going to learn to crawl. I jump up and down and yell when he learns something new. They get excited when they take a shot or can sleep in until noon. I'm the mom who makes the weird faces, silly noises, and dances around the room just to get a little grin out of Hunter. If anyone walked in the room and saw me they would probably think I'm crazy. It's kind of amazing what you will do just to make your child smile. I sing made up songs that make completely NO sense, but if Hunter loves it then I do it! Sometimes I feel a little left out from my friends because I am at a completely different point in my life then they are. I can't really relate to going out on the weekends. They don't know what's it like to wake up at 2am with a crying baby when you're exhausted. When you become a mom your body just gets used to sleep. I still enjoy going out, but I would much rather stay at home with my little family. I know that eventually my friends with all be in the same place I am in their life and then we'll have lots more to talk about. Then we can all have conversations on diaper rash, car seat brands, and what books to read to our babies. For now, I'll just enjoy my little guy and listen to their crazy stories from the night before. The best part is, someday they will all be asking me for advice because I'll already have been there. I can tell them how it is. I love my husband and my little boy more than anything in the world. They complete me and I love watching us grow together as a family. When you get older you lose friends, but gain so much more. Your social group becomes your husband and your child. I get to experience all these moments and I treasure all the early mornings, the icky diapers, and all the giggles. This is the best time of my life and I wouldn't trade it for a night at the bar for anything.
amen. :)
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